Q&A: I’m no longer in love with my girlfriend
I'm no longer in love with my girlfriend whom I have known for half a year.
I think she is insanely gorgeus and sexy but it's like the infatuation is gone.
Usually at this point in a relationship I take off and find a new one but I can't seem to get myself to do that with her.
What's happening and what should I do?
I'm no longer in love with my girlfriend - What can I do about it?
Thank you so much for your question! It is actually a question I get often!
You've come to a typical phase in a relationship where the infatuation is gone and you are no longer in love "by nature".
Now you must learn "to love" your girlfriend. This is the time where you start to see who she really is - without all the hormones that comes along with the infatuation period.
As long as you are in the early stages of a relationship, we see our partner as perfect, unique and irreplaceable.
But when the infatuation (which is actually all about hormones/chemicals in the brain that are meant to ensure the survival of our species, here I'm talking from a primary and basic instincts point of view) is gone, we begin to see our partner as she/he really is, with faults, bad habits, bad morning hair and breath.
We actually choose our partner twice before we become a "real" couple.
The first time when we fall in love and a second time when the infatuation ends and we must assess whether the person hiding behind the infatuation is a person we want to learn to love.
Your strategy so far has been to jump to the next woman and feel the rush of lust once again.
Be careful with that, infatuation junkies do exist, and it is actually an addiction.
Your task is to be with your girlfriend.
See her bad sides and still love her regardless.
To go deeper with her than in some other relationships you've been in.
Learn how to get the lust to flare up again, share lows and wonderful moments with her.
You have to decide if you want to learn that with her...
That specific girl you been dating the last 6 month.
Do you consider her as a "real relationship potential?"
Is she "one" you could actually see yourself grow old with?
In short and by time you need to learn how a true relationship works.
And I can tell you that it is hard work and like it is in the movies.
But sometimes it is wonderful, amazing and unforgettable and these are the moments you live for.
And you have the power to create these moments with your girlfriend through good times and bad.
If you like to learn more about how to maintain a great relationship, you are more than welcome to download and watch my online workshop "The Real Love Blueprint"
In this Free Online Workshop you’ll get:
First of all the mindset I have been teaching my clients for years now.
A mindset that will remove the anxiety, pressure, and thoughts about performance in your love life and relationship.
And replace it with thoughts of support, encouragement, teamwork and loving partnership.
AND instantly make your relationship a manageable task.
This course will help you to:
Determine how much of your love life is based on coincidences
Become aware of what is missing in your relationship and translate that into goals so you know exactly what you need to address
Learn the 7 basic elements of relationships
See that you are responsible for the condition of your relationship and learn what to do about it
Figure out what it is you really want deep down
Enjoy your journey
Maj Wismann – Clinical Sexologist and Relationship Therapist with own clinic since 2006 - Read more about Maj here <--