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9 Comments

  1. Bandar K Alabbas

    Good morning, me and my wife broke up and I need to get back to her. I have talked to her and about how to fix the issues, then we started texting and we had long conversation about future, it was a good talk warm and nice. After we finish she started texting me about how I check other woman in front of her. I told her I have change all the things we talked a bout even this I will not let it happen again. Please you are my only hope to help me with my wife to get back together. I beg you to help me and respond. I am without her nothing. I love her so much. Please I really need you to help me

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  2. M.are

    Hi Maj,

    Mines a freaking doozy. I don’t even know where to begin actually. I guess I’ll begin like this. Me and my husband have been married about 1 year and 6 months now. But we’re been dating for about 8 years. We’re high school sweet hearts. And even tho he had few girlfriends before me he was actually my first boyfriend. Anyways. Throughout our relationship I’ve noticed he tends to look at other women. At one point early on in our relationship he messaged all his exs reminiscing about their time together while he was dating me. Reminding them about them dating. And later he would message girls on Craigslist trying to hook up. I never confronted him. And I still have never said anything to him to him. But I let myself forget about that because I don’t know why now. I think I was just scared to be called a snoop. And now I find myself in the sam pickle. Now that we’re married I once asked him if he ever looked at other women and/or porn. I’ve decided to be open with him and say porn is okay and such and that I wouldn’t even mind watching it together some day. He didn’t say anything to that but he was very insistent that since we were married he made a commitment to me and if he was just gonna look at other girls he wouldn’t have gotten married in the first place. Now imagine my surprise when I notice he’s been looking up women almost every night. Minimum at least 3-4 times a week. And sometimes he’ll still look women up on Craigslist. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know how to bring it up. Every time I’ve found out I come across his actions by accident. And then when I start looking for real I see all of what he’s been doing. And it just hurts because he lied to me. He lied even after I said it would be okay. I’d rather him be honest but he keeps doing this to me and I don’t really know what to do.

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  3. RoseM

    Hi Maj,

    Ive been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now and i would say we have a very strong relationship. The question i have is: is it normal for your boyfriend to talk about other girls with their friends, usually with rather sexual undertones and sometimes just plain sexually?

    My boyfriend has new friends who he hangs around with in his course he is doing, and they always talk about the other girls within their course, their looks and they often give zero thought to the girls feelings, they just objectify them. I’m already quite self-conscious and insecure with myself and this makes me feel much more so.

    I confronted my partner and told him that it made me uncomfortable and he denied it and hid evidence of any gawking- he’d shown me his phone once and i saw that him and his friends sent each other photos and messages of these girls they know. He told me it was ‘nothing,guys do it’, and while i know that he would never ever cheat, it still makes me feel upset. He stopped talking this way about girls while on break but hes only 3 days back in his course and hes back at it again.

    How do i talk to him without him thinking i’m being crazy and over jealous? Is this normal for all guys?
    thanks

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  4. Anjali

    this is not everytime he does when we make out, but sometimes when we are having sex my husband wants to see videos like playboy/hot girls photoshoot/a hot girls image/something like that. i will not mind if he will watch porn but it makes me very uncomfortable and insecure when he does that. But this is also true he will never check out girls on road.
    And also he will ask me before he watches it.i don’t know what to say.
    i am very confused & also very stressed thinking, is he not sexually happy with me?

    please clear my confusion 🙁

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  5. Carolyn

    Hi
    I have been with my fiancé for 4 years now and say the 1st year in a half I never say him look and checking other women but now that’s all he’s seem to do even when I’m with him he is consistently looking and checking out other younger females 24/7 — 7 days a week like here’s perfect sample explain him if we go to the mall or something and he happens to see hot female he’ll literally miss 10-15 parking spots just so he can park by her so he can check her out right in front of me he opens doors for other women and he will even wait for them to come to the door and all the movies we watch sometimes I wonder if there are mini pron because all movies are is boobs ass & pussy All the time he tells me I’m jealous he’s stop having sex with me our sex life has drastically dropped he tells me that I imagine him looking and checking out other females cause he says he’s not at all doing this I feel like I’m not good enough I feel im not what he really truly wants even though he’s tells me I’m everything he wants and he can’t figure out why I get upset or mad he can’t understand that it hurts me he has told me before if I ever saw him looking at another female it was only because they were unique something unique caught his attention like really I’m not stupid the reason hes looking is because they’re hot they blow me all the water but he tells me I’m jealous I have no competition I’m only woman for him but he’s consistently looking and checking out other females he says he doesn’t care about sex doesn’t want sex he’s going to be 49 but that is true then why is he consistently looking and checking out the younger females and DOSENT just look once he looks to three times with the same female and he wonders why I have no self-esteem or self-confidence and consistently put myself down he can’t figure that out I need help i’m going to explode I need someone to talk to you can you please talk to me

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  6. Celia

    if my husband see a girl that looks good from the back he does everything in his power to hang about until he can see her face. My husband is a couple of months off Sixty if the young woman was walking by i would overlook it does any one else have this problem.

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  7. Pearl

    Hi. I have been married to my husband for 3 years now. Most of the time he does appreciate me and he tells me am his soulmate. However there are times I feel that he’s rude towards me in his words. He has spoken of few of his past relationships and he had met these women on a matrimonial website… and yes they were prettier than me. But it just so happened that he met me on this website as well and we got married. Just few months back one of those women tried to contact him via email. He had replied to her in a polite manner that he was already married to me and wasn’t interested in her. But the woman kept writing to him trying to meet him. And in his last reply he did agree to meet her. But when I found out about his emails he told me he wasn’t interested in her and wasn’t planning to meet her.

    But I realised that in all his replies to her he had been polite and never said anything like ‘can u stop writing to me’ or ‘ pls don’t contact me.’ He just kept replying her. It seemed as though he had a soft spot for her.

    And sometimes when we both have conversations he easily gets mad with me and doesn’t even think twice before saying things that could hurt my feelings.
    After he argues he also remains angry with me for many days.

    It seems like when it comes to me he thinks he can talk or argue however he wants, but I feel like when it comes to outsiders or friends from his past, especially women, he is more polite and gives more respect for them.

    Could this be because they are more prettier than I am? Are men generally polite towards prettier women than to their wives?

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  8. makenzie thompson

    hi maj,
    so there’s this new girl in my group of guys and she keeps taking them from me. they tell me that she is trying to “get rid of me forever” and that they are her guys. it makes me pissed off at her. first of all one of the guys is my bf. She tells them bad things about me, SHE DOESN’T EVEN KNOW ME. how do I stop this????????

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  9. Brandon

    I just discovered your site and found that your advice is solid and fair. Its clearly designed for women though so perhaps I shouldn’t even be writing here. But a few men have so here goes.
    To ever discern wisdom about ANY issue, a person has to first step away from the “Its all about me” position. Nothing is “all about you” or ALL about anybody. If its about a relationship, then its automatically about at least TWO people. Both have value. And, regardless of what your girlfriends tell you, if you don’t take into consideration what your man is thinking, you will never find a real answer to your problem.
    I’m afraid that, despite Maj’s attempt to be fair, the little cartoons of google-eyed men reveals that she still panders to the stereotype of men. I realize that upset women probably like those pictures but they do harm and don’t help. I am in my sixties and have observed that there are two kinds of women in the world – good women and not-so-good women. And, likewise, there are good men and not-so-good men. Is there anybody out there who would seriously argue with this logic?? Isn’t it pretty basic? Didn’t you see this in kindergarten even? Some kids were nice, some were not. Gender IS NOT THE ISSUE.
    And so, for me the reason I was even on this site is because I’ve been in a close relationship with a woman for nearly a year. We’ve talked about marriage. I absolutely adore this woman in so many ways. We laugh a lot together. We are kind to each other’s families. We attend church together and we pray together. With all those considerations, I’d be very much ready to propose. So, here’s the problem.
    She has a real problem with staring at other men when we are out on a date. I’m a successful professional man and stay in fairly good condition. I am interested in her work, ask about her family members regularly, take her to nice places. But this keeps coming up. We were at one restaurant and, while seated and eating, the manager with whom she had been locking eyes all evening actually came up and asked if he could buy her a drink. (Still think its my imagination?)
    Each time I’ve tried to talk to her about it, she gets defensive, says it didn’t happen and accuses me of being “controlling.” (You know, ladies, that term that is quickly tossed out any time a man has an opinion on ANY subject.)
    We had the last discussion yesterday. I told her that, even though I fully love her, I can’t be married to a person who has this inclination of eye flirting with other men in my presence. It is simply disrespectful to me and it encourages disrespect for her from those other men.
    So I welcome any thoughts about this. A quick internet search will reveal that this is NOT an isolated problem. It happens a lot with sneaky men staring at women but just as much with women who see no problem with flirting while with their own man. At this point, I feel that, since she won’t admit it or talk about it honestly, there isn’t much hope for a marriage. That’s sad because I so admire her in every other way.
    It was pointed out on this site that, if the offender won’t admit the offense, then there isn’t much chance of it changing. So I’m not encouraged at this point since she insists it doesn’t happen.
    I welcome any fair objective comments or suggestions. Hopefully, the bashers who tell themselves that ANY problem in a relationship is automatically the “man’s fault” will abstain from comments. However, I do appreciate any remarks from those who do remember the kindergarten lesson: Some people are good, some are not so good. Applies to both men and women.

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